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Baarak Allaahu Feekum

Keep it Simple and Consistent.

"The most beloved of deeds to Allaah are the most consistent of them, even if they are few." Found in Bukhaaree & Muslim.


Whether or not we realize it, each day we have routines, regimen's, patterns that we act out. Even for the most unorganized person , he or she is carrying out same behaviors, ideas , routines each day without even noticing.

That being said, if we were to simply arrange those routines , behaviors, regimen's etc into actual goals in life we would be able to reach a higher level stress free.

Let me explain further ....

Each day tasks must get accomplished. How about if we were to  add into our daily affairs, simple actions, studies, or behaviors? (depending on the ultimate goal of that individual)  Taking into consideration that every action we carry out in a day can ultimately aid us in reaching a higher success.

Some people make their religion and lives so much more difficult by trying to fulfill many things in one day then becoming burnt out. As opposed to doing one or two simple deeds each day and continuously carrying out those same deeds EVERY day and not just sometimes.

For example, in order for crops to grow a farmer must carry out the same tasks every single day in order for the greater effect of those crops to come about. He must water the crops every day, look after them every day, and protect the crops from outer elements etc. Although he carries out the same tasks each day, the farmer doesn't mind because those consistent tasks will lead up to fresh quality crops growing. It took time and consistency.

Likewise the many natural cycles that we see do the same thing right before our eyes! Look at the water cycle, the moon orbiting, and the very life cycle as we know it! All these natural cycles carry out the same exact process day after day in order that the greater outcome comes about for humans and animals.

If we were to just ponder and reflect upon what is around us , we would see that keeping things simple and consistent is a way of life and where the most success can derive from.

Its those simple and consistent regimens that give us so much success ultimately because all along we are being productive in a healthy way. Not burdening ourselves with numerous classes or work assignments in one day. Instead maybe spreading things out little by little over a course of a set time in order to achieve that degree or quota at work.

Or other examples like praying the amount of sunan prayers (extra prayers outside of the obligatory prayers) you can each day and sticking to it, reading a set amount of pages of Quraan each day, giving charity to a set person or family each day, teaching someone a 5 minute reminder everyday and the list goes on. Sure when there are days you can do extra outside of that , of course do it but on average your doing your level best!

This is the key here as well ... YOUR LEVEL BEST... NOT SOMEONE ELSE'S. Sometimes we are so busy trying to achieve someone else's level best that we cannot achieve our own. Each person's level is different so only do what you know you can handle.

However here's the flip side to all of this. Those individuals whom are underachievers and will use these types of statements the wrong way. Yes we are to be as simple and consistent as possible. But really we are doing this to reach higher and higher levels .  So we should not to be consistent with being lazy. We are to be consistent with daily deeds that will lead us to those goals we want in this life and the next.

There isn't anything wrong with pushing yourself either because there is benefit in that as well. And  just settling for the "bare minimum" of success is no good either. Truly there is a balance in everything. My point is to just share that there is a high level of success in being simple yet consistent also. If you are a person who can push to your limit and be healthy spiritually and physically etc then by all means do so. But this is not the ONLY way to attain success.

One of the beautiful benefits of this way of living is that we get the sweetness of consistently being productive and not being overwhelmed while doing so. Being happy and enjoying the moments carrying out these simple consistent deeds. Living in the moment. Not dreading the processes that we are carrying out due to piling up so much on us all at once.

Some people that claim they are so successful are sometimes the most spiritually, mentally,physically and emotionally stressed individuals  due to the piling up of so many things all at once instead of spreading them out little by little. "Grinding the same way each day to reach a higher goal."

May Allaah grant us balance, guidance and blessing in all our affairs aameen.

Knowledgeable Women Cultivate an Entire Nation.

Ibn Al Jawzee  raheemahullaah said

"A woman is an accountable individual just as a man is. She is obliged to seek knowledge of her duties so that she may perform them properly." 

The importance of knowledge in Islaam is so lofty and important that it was given as a commandment in the Quraan. "Read in the name of your Lord , who has created all that exists." Sarah AlaQ

(96:1)

With the above mentioned in mind, we want to get into how women play a role in this field of seeking knowledge and being knowledgeable. Understanding how deficient this world would be without the presence of knowledgeable women. 

All throughout history examples of pious knowledgeable women have shown its effects on a global scale. We are our children's first examples of what it means to be upright and intelligent. Also in our families and communities we represent for more than just ourselves. We represent Islaam and muslim women everywhere. 

But in truth what are we representing every time we interact with our husbands, children, family, friends, community and more? Are we showing examples of the prophets wives and how they were? Are we speaking like them, behaving like them,  dressing like them, having good manners and character like them? And how can we do so if we don't even know who they are and what they stood for? 

We cannot be our best and represent the best if we do not have knowledge. So many of the women today have lost the essence of what being an upright knowledgeable woman really is. We have so many present examples that are thrown in our faces and made to be fair seeming when in reality, its nothing more than the trick of the shaytaan to distract us from the greater good. 

"Knowledge precedes statements and actions." Or "Knowledge precedes words and deeds." 

This statement is an everyday thought for the muslim. If we do not have the knowledge about something, how can we carry it out?! 

Sure every woman will not be a scholar and we are not expected to overwhelm ourselves either. However many of us are not even doing our level best! We can all stand to do a bit better in different areas. We must understand and realize that if we are good intelligent women, then we will produce and generate the same for the next generation. After all, what is the reward for good other than good?! 

There are ways in which women deliver knowledge that men don't . Wisdom that women have that is unique. Character and mannerisms that are passed onto our offspring  from birth . These things and much more are some subtleties that are exclusive to women. They may seem minor but have impacted entire nations both in good and bad ways. 

The best of knowledge is the knowledge of our Lord and the religion of Al-Islaam. Many women walk around with a PHD and Masters from various universities yet have the slightest understanding or knowledge about her Lord and religion. Secular knowledge plays a major role yes. However we have lost the balance between proper education seeing as secular knowledge has dollar bills attached, everyone is QUICK to get the secular first. But what about our hereafter....Where that piece of paper degree will not answer those questions in the grave for us. Nor will money buy us a sweet spot in the grave either. Unless we used that secular education in the way of Allaah, we need to really be careful. 

Everyone's path to Jannah is different. We must all find those good deeds that Allaah loves that are easiest for us to do consistently and keep at it! But no matter what we do in life , it will ALWAYS revolve around knowledge. Any path we tread, step we take, move we make, we will always have to find out the "know how" and that is knowledge. 

The effects knowledgeable women have on entire families and communities is amazing. If only we realize that we MUST seek the religious knowledge. Take advantage of our time more and act upon whatever knowledge we do learn right away is a start. 

Beginning with ourselves first if we seek knowledge then we become better worshippers to Allaah.

In turn this makes us have more taQwa (more fearful of Allaah and mindful).

Then we spread that which we've learned of knowledge and good, and it effects others and they act upon it as well. 

And since we have more exposure to the next generation of muslims (our children and other peoples children) then we not only end up helping ourselves , we also end up aiding the next generation to be even better than we are. 

We are that other half that is needed in productive societies. Without knowledgeable , healthy , productive women, this nation and others will fall apart! And this is EXACTLY why the western society is set up to tear the family structure apart by removing the mother from the home. Giving the women male authority by throwing her into the work force away from her family in an attempt to reverse the roles of women and turning them into men. 

What's extremely strange is that , everyday women around the world are working.....working for OTHER people's families. Serving them in restaurants, hospitals, schools, daycares and more. And although it is completely permissible for a woman to work in Islaam, we have lost focus. We've not realized that we work for other people's families only to neglect ours! We are so caught up into the "rat race" that we cannot even see what's happening . Our family structures are torn apart because of the removal of righteous, knowledgeable women. And the increase of these broken families are a sure proof of this. 

Some will read this and argue many things. Some may say " I have bills" , "Its my husbands fault I work" , "I didn't choose this life" , "I love to work" and the list goes on. Those excuses may genuinely have some validity to them. However what are we doing to preserve and protect knowledge of religion of Al-Islaam as women? If we seek only to chase the dollar , and never learn our religion and act upon it, then what will we have saved up for our hereafter where we will abide therein forever? 

Every woman lives a different lifestyle. And we are not expected to all be the same as we all have different paths to tread. However no matter what lifestyle we lead, Allah comes first! We are representatives of Islaam every single time we walk out our doors. Every time we marry, have children, have coworkers and colleagues , neighbors etc , we say something through our actions and deeds. 

So the question is.... "Is our knowledge preceding our actions and deeds?" 

Until next time In shaa Allaah , May Allaah bless, preserve and protects us all Aameen. 

It's not just for him....It's for YOU!!!

You asked for him in prayer.
You thought about him.
Dreamed about him.
Then Allaah finally gave him to you!

The man of your dreams all you ever wanted and needed in a man. So now that you finally nabbed him and married him, you began to get comfortable.

Remember how much you would do to make sure every time he laid eyes on you EVERYTHING was flawless? Then all of sudden you get married, get to know each other, and have a few children.
So after awhile, your not so concerned with those same things you used to do to to ensure he was pleased with everything about you.

It's definitely not intentional. The responsibilities we end up having after marriage and children (just to name a few) really take an effect on us. Sometimes finding  that  opening of time to simply shave your legs , or do your hair, or choose that cute outfit just simply doesn't happen! At times we are so drained from a days work, we honestly don't even FEEL like looking good. Then the words pedicure, manicure, and facials are all like speaking Chinese because it's been so long since you've gotten one, you don't even know what it means! Hahaa.

But what's the big deal anyway? You have him already and are married right? ... He loves you for you right? ... Your relationship is so close and "real" , he doesn't mind you looking the same day in and day out right? ..... WRONG!

There were ways about you, looks that you had,  a figure that you had, and a politeness about you that made that man head over heels about you. Of course realistically this was before he seen you during times that are not so appealing. Like just waking up , or just finished delivering his child, or even one of those really rough "I don't feel like being bothered " menses days! So of course back then, his views about you were untainted since he hadn't lived with you yet to see those other sides to you.

Likewise we want to accept and recognize that men do some really unattractive things as well. This in turn adds onto our "comfort of letting go" mentality. But with all of the above being taken into consideration , this still isn't enough reason for a woman to just let herself go and be OK with it.

All throughout a woman's life we will go through different stages of life. Adulthood, being a wife, motherhood, friendships coming and going, being a family and community figure, deaths , emotional roller coasters, menopause and much more. However, once these things have happened, pick yourself up and get back on track with taking care of yourself both inside and out. Its normal to fall off a little in times of hardship. Once the dust has settled, get back up and do it better the next time around!

Never give up on yourself and think that those around you should just accept how you've become if its not in a positive way. We should strive every day on ways to make us better. A better Muslimah, a better wife, mother , daughter, sister , friend, a better everything! Because these are things we strive to be better at until death. We should never feel like "we've arrived" at a particular goal and then stop going forward. Our goals should be never ending. Completing one goal and going forward to the next. Being so immersed with our own self and family's betterment that we don't have time to worry about what anyone else is or is NOT doing.

We want to analyze the main excuse that woman use on why they don't take care of themselves. "I'm so busy taking care /helping everyone else, i don't have time to take care of me." Well let us address this. How will you be able to continue to help your family and others if you do not keep yourself spiritually, emotionally , and physically stable? After some time our bodies break down and we tire out from the excessive running and lack of replenishment .

I say that a lot of women use this as an excuse because many women are really not concerned with taking care of themselves , rather its so much easier to help someone else then to help your own self! Hence the saying "take your own medicine." How can you give what you don't have? How can you help others and your not helping yourself with very detrimental issues in your own life? Don't get so caught up that the main person you have to answer for in the sight of Allaah on the day of judgement (which is you) you forget all about. Although yes we do earn good deeds for doing good toward others, that still isn't enough that we should forget about ourselves.

We need to understand and accept that if we as women do better by our personal upkeep both inward and outward, that we become better and stronger in every other aspect of our lives . This allows us to do even more, be more productive, more kind and positive etc. However the more we run off of no fuel and don't take care of us, we crash and become weaker and more stressed. This makes for a very irritable, uptight, rude, unstable individual. Then in turn a person can also lose interest in things they once loved to do. And Allaah's aid is sought .

In conclusion, let us be more mindful of our own affairs and stop worrying about what everyone else is or is NOT doing. Let us get it together and learn those things that help us be more happier, productive, and positive. We need to act upon being good to ourselves inwardly and outwardly for US ... not just for a man! Whether your a married woman or not taking care of yourself is something we are supposed to do. Your not doing your husband a favor because your striving to feel good and look good. This is what we are SUPPOSED to do regardless! So being concerned with how your husband feels about your well being and looks of course is very crucial however, apart of being a woman is that your man shouldn't have to tell you how to be a woman. He shouldn't  have to hint that he doesn't mind you looking busted or that he's OK with your instability to make you feel better about yourself. Because if you didn't know, that is only a man's way of consoling his woman for all the deficiencies she's displaying so as not to aid in her getting worse. A good man will not insult his woman or try to hurt her feelings so what does he do? Tells her everything is OK so she wont feel worse about herself.

Your religious.
Your husband is pleased every time he's with you and lays eyes on you.
You have sweet speech.
Your house is kept.
Healthy food is always cooked for your family.
You always have a genuine smile on your face.
Your kind and generous to others.
Your children are kept, has good manners and smart.
You exercise.
You eat right.
You seek knowledge.
You have righteous companions.
You smell good and look good.

A woman handles her business in every aspect of her life! She's constantly on her A-game. Sure no one is perfect and we slip and fall off at times. But we get up and start again and are happy about it! Don't don't just do it for him.... Do it for YOU! ... Are you handling your business???

May Allaah make us women he is pleased with Aameen.

Choose Your Words... You Can't Take Them Back.

"You never do anything for me."
"Thats what your SUPPOSED to do... so what!"
"Do it yourself."
"You make me sick."
"Thats ALL you got me"....  (rolling eyes)
"Mine"
"I"

Listed above are actual statements from some wives toward their husband. If any of these sound familiar or are commonly used, then it definitely needs to be addressed ASAP.

One of the MANY gifts that Allaah has given women is the power of speech. This gift is so powerful it can be as effective as magic. Our words can MAKE or BREAK someone quick! That being said we MUST choose our words carefully.

Many women complain about things they don't like about their men when really sometimes that woman has broke her man down so bad verbally, he isn't motivated to better himself.

We can look at every woman that the prophet was married to and the ALL had his back no matter what! Sure they became upset with him and expressed anger sometimes. This is a realistic component of marriage. Disagreements and anger. However, that's not the real issue. The real issue is WHEN we get upset (because we are going to angry with our men sometimes and rightly so most of the time hahaha wink wink) How we handle that anger and what we say will be an everlasting effect on our marriage that we cannot take back.

Sometimes things spit out from our mouth that once said, the husband may never forget or forgive. And due to men not communicating as often and as easily as we do, we may never know that hiding deep down, that man has grew some dislike toward you.

First we want to realize that ANYTHING your husband gets you whether you like the item or not, you'd better act like you love it! This is very important. How you react when your husband brings you home something will determine if he will ever buy you anything again on his own. I don't care if it wasn't anything except your man bringing home a loaf of bread... you'd better act as if its the best bread you ever had.

Now this may seem trivial, however it is actually crucial. If a man feels that anything he does for you is rejected he will feel as if he failed. And if you didn't know, men want to please their wives. Its apart of the male makeup. They love to make us happy... If we let them!

The problem is , many women are so ungrateful upon receiving kindness from their men that the men eventually give up being nice. Every man has their own unique way of showing affection. So when he does whether you particularly favor it or not, show him how happy you are that he even thought of you!

He doesn't HAVE to do certain things. Don't feel like your doing HIM a favor! What you dont appreciate another woman surely will. You know how many women would love to have that man and treat him right?!! And there you are barking him out because he may have done or bought something you were displeased with?

Be more lighthearted and when he seeks forgiveness forgive and let go... play more with him.. laugh more with him... flirt... stop being so uptight!

As for using words like mine and I, then these are also dangerous words. Everything is a unit once married. Try replacing those words with "OUR" and  "WE" and "TOGETHER" .

As women let us use our gift of speech to uplift our men . Kindness meets kindness. If your good to him surely he will be good to you. We have to watch our words. They hurt! Men are human too . Just because they don't express verbally as much as we do that doesn't mean you haven't offended him and even scared him for life. Men also have self esteem believe it or not. We have the ability to aid that man in being a better HIM. But many use that ability for belittlement. Criticizing your mans every move. Correcting and watching for flaws. Instead of worrying about how many flaws you have!

On the flip side, you have these women that are with these loser men for lack of better words. Men whom have no value to that womans life yet she has him "BOOED" up like he's a king and hasn't aided her in anything except her demise. She speaks gently to him and does whatever he requests. However he doesn't fear allah and doesn't care for that woman. This is due to some women only respecting a man that will treat her badly. Then the good brother comes along and she treats him terrible!

We need to get it together as women and treat the men whom have TaQwa correct! They are a favor and a blessing from Allaah. Surely we need to offer sujood in gratitude for our good men they are out here striving . Think before speaking you may say a word that you can never take back. Its not worth one moments anger to emotionally tear your man down.

Some women don't feel good about themselves and so they verbally attack due to their own low self esteem. In this case, seek help from Allaah and counseling its ok to get help. And in turn inform your husband to offer dua for you and be patient.

Lets strive for loving and supporting our men like Khadijah and Aaesha and all the other wives did toward the prophet sallaallaahu alayhee wassallaam.

And Allaahs aid is sought... May he guide and aid us all in becoming better aameen.

The Most Important Call You'll Ever Make.

A moment in your life that you're in an extreme difficulty that has torn you apart like a hurricane.Faced with feelings you've never felt before and cannot be verbally expressed.

You cry and kneel to the ground barely able to keep your balance. 

Suddenly you make a call..... You cry out to Allaahالله in a way you would've NEVER cried out to Allaahالله had it not been for this extreme difficulty your faced with right now. 

So there you are .... Torn apart...  Broken .... 

But there is one call you MUST make to ease the pain. 

That call is upon Allaahالله . As-Sami' (the all hearer) 

We've all been there and WILL be there again. It's apart of being alive that we must face trials whether Muslim or not. But AlHamdulillaah الحمد لله for the Muslims when faced with trials we have a lot to look forward to ..... If ONLY we are patient! 

Allaahالله tells us in the Quraan : 

And when My servants ask you concerning Me, surely I am very near; I answer the prayer (supplication) of the suppliant when he calls on Me. (2:186)

"And your Lord says: Call upon Me, I will answer you; surely those who are too proud to worship Me shall soon enter hell abased" (Qur’an, 40:60

Allaahالله informs  us to call upon him. It is literally the most important call we will ever make! However we cannot just call upon Allan and don't believe . We must KNOW he will respond. 

Its been narrated from SaHeeH Bukhaaree:

Hadeeth qudsi: “I am as My slave thinks I am. I am with him when he makes 

mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assembly better than it.” 

Imaam An-Nawawee (may allah have mercy upon him) gave an explanation about the above that stated: 

"The scholars said that expecting the best of Allaahالله is to expect that he will have mercy on him and relieve him of hardship."

SharH SaHeeh Muslim . 

So we derive from these encouraging statements by Allaahالله and his messenger that truly in every affair the Muslim calls upon Allaahالله. He is the ONLY one that will relieve us. And while your at it, pour yourself to him , be sincere, give your all in a way you've never done before. It is in this desperation that the Muslim finds peace afterward knowing that Lord of the worlds will handle this situation for you. 

But why call upon Allaahالله only in distress? What about in times of happiness when we get so much ease we actually forget the hardship? This is the RaHmah (mercy) of Allaahالله. That he would relieve us from the difficulty so well that now the call begins to subside. When really in reality that call should always be present in our lives. Begging Allaahالله for guidance , health, wealth, gratitude, and more. And how about just genuinely expressing yourself to Allaahالله on how thankful you are for the very air we breathe?! 

We must remember Allaahالله in ALL affairs not just the difficult ones. For sure if we ALWAYS remember Allaahالله , then once that hardship/trial comes about, it's actually more of a hope that Allaahالله will aid us seeing as we try to be in the habit of remembering him in all situations whether good or bad. 

It's not just enough to call upon Allaahالله but think good of Allaahالله too. Don't call upon Allaahالله  with doubt! Like the previous Hadeeth mentions , Allaahالله is how his his slave thinks of him to be. So think good of Allaahالله . He WILL answer. And be patient upon this request.

After all, this IS the most important call we will ever make...... 

The Seven Worst Women !!!

As Salaamu 'Alaykum Ladies,

I would like to talk with you all about something i believe will help us better ourselves a bit more.

Every one of us has different personalities, characteristics, and mannerisms. These are in part what makes us the type of women we are.

Now although we've briefly touched on some beautiful characteristics that we should all strive to attain , I believe sharing what we DON'T want to be like is important as well.

After all, "A thing is made clear by its opposites ."

That being said lets just jump right into the seven types of women we do not EVER want to be. Here they are below into detail;

1) AL-ANNANAH- 
This type of woman is a lady who is always complaining. Pretending to be sick all the time. She overly expresses how she "doesn't feel well." This is ALWAYS her condition.

2) Al-MANNAANAH- A woman who persistently reminds everyone around her how much she does for everyone. Always feeling "under appreciated."

3) AL-HANNAANAH- A very nostalgic woman. She's always missing for things she doesn't have anymore after had not appreciating it when she did have it. This type of woman may find her self repeatedly getting married.

4) HADDAAQAH- A high maintenance woman whom is NEVER satisfied. No matter what she purchases, what she gets of material, its never good enough for her.
She doesn't make due with what she has so she's always in need of money to buy more.

5) BARRAAQAH- "Miss Phony Boloney." She has fake hair, fake nails, high heels, she's just all around fake. She's called barraaQah because she spends a lot of time fixing her face. She does this so much so that she even has a fake complexion. She has no self esteem and ungrateful to Allaah and those around her. By the time she undresses for her husband, the husband asks "who is this woman?" Asking her this because he cannot recognize his wife anymore after having had peeled off all her fakeness!  (For the record this isn't really a word but I had to use it ahahaa!)

6) SHADDAAQAH- "MISSES QUICK WIT ATTACHED TO HER LIPS"  This is a female who ALWAYS has something to say. She simply MUST get the last word. She's always opposing her husband and those around her. Head snapping, hips switching, finger pointing.... and its embarrassing.

7) KANNAANAH- She's always bringing up how things "used to be" with someone else. Comparing her husband to her dad, or male relatives or even an ex-husband. She does this in a manner to belittle.

Many women may be reading this pondering and even surprised that she may fall into one or more of these. Or maybe even a mix ... half one type and half another.! This is expected and if your reading this article and applied this to yourself first, then surely your on the right track to self betterment in shaa Allaah.

On the other hand, if you read this saying "my home girl such and such does this" then this is something that needs correction. We should always look to ourselves first in anything we learn. How can our own backyard stay clean if we are always so busy peering into someone else's?

Looking into these seven types of women when we look to ourselves or even our own daughters that we are raising, we need to take accountability. When we KNOW better we DO better. Honestly sometimes all it takes is someone to point us in the right direction for us to see where we need some adjustments within.

These seven types of women are deadly and are NOT marriage material for any good man. Yet and still we actually see these types of women ALL the time! Like its actually normal. These characteristics are not mannerisms we should be proud of and most of all Allaah is not happy with us if we behave like these type of women.

We can also see that there is a pattern of being ungrateful within these categories of women. And so we definitely need to strive to be more grateful to Allaah and those around us.

There will be other articles in shaa Allaah on ways to do away with being this type of female. In the meantime, please understand that the prophet has already advised us on the severity of our condition as women if we fall into these types of categories above. The prophet mentioned;

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.” They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Because of their ingratitude (kufr).” It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 1052) 

With this in mind, may Allaah protect and save us from being anything like these seven types of women and may he raise us to be of those women whom Allaah is pleased with Aameen.